Skip gossip and say something good instead

When talk turns critical about someone, change the subject or add something positive.

Why it helps

Gossip can feel bonding but tends to erode trust, including your own. Speaking well of people builds a reputation for being safe to confide in.

How to do it

1. Notice when conversation drifts into criticism.
2. Redirect: 'Anyway, how's your project going?'
3. Mention a good quality of the person being discussed if appropriate.

Make it easier

Simply stay quiet and don't add to it.

Make it harder

Gently say you'd rather not talk about people who aren't there.