Ask 'How are you?' and wait for the real answer

Ask someone how they are, then stay quiet long enough for a real reply.

Why it helps

Many greetings are automatic, so people give automatic answers. A small pause tells the other person you actually want to know.

How to do it

1. Ask the question while looking at the person or giving them your full attention.
2. Wait a few seconds after the first answer.
3. Follow up with 'And how are things really?' if it feels right.

Make it easier

Do it with someone you already feel relaxed around.

Make it harder

Ask a colleague or neighbour you rarely speak with.