Assume good intent in one tense moment

When someone's behaviour annoys you, imagine a kind reason for it.

Why it helps

We often judge others by actions and ourselves by intentions. Giving the benefit of the doubt calms conflicts before they begin.

How to do it

1. Notice the irritation.
2. Think of two possible harmless explanations.
3. Respond as if one of them were true.

Make it easier

Try it with a stranger.

Make it harder

Try it with someone you often argue with.

This is not about ignoring real harm.