Respond calmly to someone who irritates you

Take a breath and answer kindly in a moment of annoyance.

Why it helps

A calm reply stops many arguments before they start. It also gives you a sense of control over your own behaviour.

How to do it

1. Notice the irritation rising.
2. Take one slow breath before replying.
3. Answer in a quiet, steady tone.

Make it easier

Pause for three seconds before responding.

Make it harder

Ask them a curious question about their view.