Ask one person for specific feedback

Ask someone you trust a precise question about your work.

Why it helps

General questions like 'was that okay?' get polite answers. A specific question gets something you can use.

How to do it

1. Pick one thing you did recently, such as a report or a talk.
2. Ask: 'What is one thing I could do better next time?'
3. Listen without defending, and thank them.

Make it easier

Ask 'What went well?' instead.

Make it harder

Ask someone who may be more critical than your usual circle.